So I watched the show “4 Weddings” the other night because I was told that a local DJ was going to be featured and all of the weddings happened here in Phoenix.  I had watched the show before, but it had been a while.  I enjoyed the fact that I had worked at 3 of the 4 venues, some of them multiple times, and that I knew a couple of the officiants.

Here are my other thoughts:

• I can’t imagine signing up for any show that put my wedding on TV, much less a show where 3 other brides come to your wedding then give your wedding a score.

• I can’t imagine being a bride and being totally happy with my wedding and then a few months later having to watch a TV show where the other brides are ripping your wedding apart.  It was so distressing to see them all talking to each other during the ceremony and complaining about the temperature or the wind, two things nobody has any control over.

• I can’t imagine turning my wedding into a game show where I’m hoping to “win” a dream honeymoon.  What about the 3 brides whose wedding’s didn’t “win”.  Now they get to live the rest of their lives with the thought, “My wedding wasn’t good enough.” floating around in the back of their head.

• Sometimes you have to think things through people.  Being on TV is not that big of a deal, but your wedding sure is.  Respect and honor it for the amazing celebration that it is.  Putting it on TV doesn’t make it more special, in fact probably quite the opposite.

• I never saw the DJ I tuned in to see because it’s almost like the DJ’s weren’t involved.  The brides gave the wedding an overall score, then a score for Venue, Food, and Dress.  What’s funny is that almost every time they asked the bride for their overall opinion a lot of them started off with, “Oh my gosh!  We had so much fun dancing!”.  I wonder if it was the venue, the dress, or the food that got them out on the dance floor?

It’s amazing how all of these wedding shows deal with picking out the dress, the flowers, the venue, the food, but NONE of them talk about the only vendor that makes the wedding fun.  Without great entertainment or worse, with bad entertainment, a wedding is just a very expensive dinner party.  You can book the best venue, hire the best caterer, deck the place out with amazing flowers, but if you don’t put the same effort and investment into picking a truly great entertainer for your wedding your guests will all leave shortly after dinner because they haven’t been given a reason to stay.

Most of the time it takes more than just having all your friends together to get them to have a good time.  It requires a professional who knows how to pace your reception so that everyone has fun and all of the events you want included are done in such a way that the fun and excitement continues to build as each event is happening.  It takes a professional to program the music so that as the night goes on people want to dance more and more.

A good DJ/MC understands that he is holding the fun of your entire night in his hands and that it’s his job to be sure that your night happens just the way you want it to.

Maybe I’m just being a whiny DJ, but I feel like there’s a great reality show in there somewhere.  I mean, it might not be as exciting as a show where we watch a woman try on different wedding dresses, but I think it’s got possibilities!  😉

Dave